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How Common Is Anal Sex?






As we've noted before, one of the most common questions around sex is, "Am I normal?" Some people--women and men alike--enjoy anal sex. So how common is this practice? GetLusty for Couples staff writer Traci Saiz is here to talk about the frequency of this sometimes taboo topic.

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You may have heard that anal is considered “dirty” or “taboo” and no one does it. But how true is that really? At GetLusty, we figured you and your partner may be wondering; just how common is anal sex? The truth is a surprising amount of couples regularly try anal. Whether you do, don’t, or happen to be curious: here is the 411 on anal pleasure. Many couples are asking, are we the only ones? Well the numbers are in and we are happy to announce: anal sex is on the rise!

A 2008 report by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) shows that 36% of straight women and 44% of straight men admitted to having tried anal sex at least once in their lives. These statistics are higher than those reported by the Kinsey Institute Study conducted from 1948-1953. The late study reported 11% of males engaged in heterosexual anal sex. The increase shows a positive perspective on anal pleasure.

Whether you are hetero, homo or bisexual everyone can enjoy anal and there is nothing taboo about it! You know you are at least a little curious... so go ahead! More people are enjoying it every day and even if anal isn’t your favorite thing it’s at least another way to add some variety to your (already steamy) sex life.

So just how much fun can anal sex be?

Both men and women can experience a new sensation from performing anal sex. Your man likely really wants to try anal! You don’t need to jump right into it. Try a relaxing massage or warm soothing bubble bath to start things off. Then see where the evening takes you. Try a finger or two just to see how your partner feels, grab some lube and go slow and easy. For pegging, try our simple 10 step how-to. Anal can be very sensual and sexy.

Communicate during sex where your comfort levels are throughout and be open to the experience. The best thing about anal sex is the new exploration of pleasure for both of you. Keep in mind there are plenty of other ways to engage in anal stimulation, including: beads, fingers, etc. You can also incorporate toys for some extra fun.

Anal has potential to be painful and even awkward; be it your first time, or you perform anal on the regular, it is something to keep in mind. The trick is to ease into it, keep communication open and ask your partner their thoughts beforehand. Go slow, relax, have fun, and get into it. Anal is not scary or dirty. However, one may feel intimidated and insecure when performing anal sex. This is why communication is important. Keep your partner in the know on how you feel about the situation, during and after. Be sure you are both on the same page, comfortable and ready.

Anal may not be everyone’s cup of tea but those of us who do love it, really love it! Give it a try; don’t be shy, let go of you inhibitions and uncertainties. You never know how much pleasure you both can have until you give it a go. The next best thing to your orgasm is the closeness and openness you two share in knowing you can be completely comfortable together, even if it gets messy. Trying something new will only open up new adventures and excitement for you both to share.

Nothing is taboo in the bedroom (or wherever you have your fun). Whatever you and your partner are into is sure to be sexy, special between you, and never to be ashamed of. Anal is just another avenue to explore and have fun with. Keep in mind the polls are in and anal is another sexy position couples are raving about. So, whether it’s your first time trying it or your 100th, enjoy!

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Traci Saiz is a Southern California native but a Chicago girl at heart. She has a B.A. in Marketing and mentors on the side. She is a sports fanatic, a fun-seeking traveler, and passionate in nature especially when it comes to sex. She believes sex is a key element in a relationship and it doesn’t have to be “movie” sex but it has to be fun! She is not afraid to bare her dirty secrets (actually she doesn’t seem to have any). This gal is definitely not shy and loves to discuss relationships and sex with anyone and everyone! Follow Traci on twitter @TraciAlaina or find her on Pinterest.

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3 Must Read Books on Anal


We have written a lot about anal sex. From the ultimate guide to anal sex to five must have anal sex toys, we have covered it. However, if you want to learn as much as you possibly can about anal sex, you might want to check out the books below! We have written on the best books for marriage, books of giving better blowjobs, and cunnilingus, and now we think it is time to give our bums some love too. Without further adieu, here is our pick of the three best books on anal sex!

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#1 The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (2nd edition)
By: Tristan Taormino 

The second edition of Tristan's amazing book, has been revised and updated throughout. Tristan included all new chapters specifically for beginners and for women giving anal pleasure to men. This is a comprehensive and creative book on anal sex. Tristan Taormino offer the kind of informed reassurance that can encourage even an absolute beginner to explore this nerve-rich part of the body, either alone or with a partner of any gender. Anal sex enthusiasts may need no encouragement, but will welcome Taormino's sense of adventure and her detailed discussions of toys, fantasy play and positions.

Beginning by dispelling common myths about anal eroticism, Taormino goes on to illustrate anatomy, give tips on building trust and communicating desires, and provide reliable, easy-to-understand information on safety, preparation, hygiene, and much more. This new edition has been substantially expanded and revised to include new information on masturbation, anal health, BDSM and anal sex, and many other topics. In a new feature, Taormino answers actual reader questions.

Salon.com says it is "The bible of female anal sex!" and Time Out New York says Tristan "is the go-to girl on anal sex."

#2 Tickle My Tush: Mild to Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty
By: Dr. Sadie Allison

TIckle My Tush is a smart guide for men and women to the true pleasures of the under-explored seat of love. With Dr. Sadie's trademark tongue-in-cheek narrative, together with over 60 tasteful illustrations, this guide book clearly shows how to enjoy these newfound thrills-comfortably, safely, and pleasurably.

This book goes from "mild to wild" so curious couples can find their personal approach and comfort levels at their own pace. Be as mild as you want with sensual butt massages or anal finger play, or read about butt toys, innercourse and "pegging" to experience wild orgasmic sensations. Feel confident with the tips and techniques that dispel myths and skyrocket pleasure. This is the most approachable how-to analplay guide.

"If I'm gonna take advice from someone about my tush, it's gonna be Dr. Sadie. Her style and humor are pleasant and informative and she's not afraid to leave out any embarrassing or important details. Remember, that's where Cosmo gets its advice from!" -Eleni Solomou, Columnist, Cosmopolitan Magazine

#3 Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Couples
By: Dr. Jack Morin, Ph.D.
 
For many years the focus of fear and disgust, the anus is actually one of the human body's most wondrous creations- elegant, efficient, and richly supplied with pleasure nerves. However, stress and ignorance can turn the anus and its functions from a source of delight into a painful disability. What's needed is an owner's manual- and here it is!

Join therapist and sexologist, Jack Morin, Ph.D., on this tour of the anus, complete with information and exercises to open the door to new sources of comfort and gratification. You'll unlearn habits that can cause everything from hemorrhoids to chronic pelvis pain- and, if you choose learn new ways of achieving solo and partnered pleasures through this humblest of portals.

"Anal Pleasure and Health is the original guide to anal eroticism and still the greatest." -Michael Castleman, author, Great Sex

Lora is on our editorial team and is our resident health nut! When she isn't writing or editing, you can find her on her yoga mat, exploring Chicago via bicycle, or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend in their north side apartment. She has a dangerous habit of spending too much money on soy lattes and yoga clothes. Find her on Twitter @HoneyNutLo or email her at Lora@GetLusty.com if you have any questions!

Ladies! 3 Surprising Types of Orgasms

Orgasm October has been teaching us so much already! We have already gone over six orgasms so far during this sexy month: clitoral, vaginal, mentalU-spot, A-spot and breast orgasms. We couldn't leave you hanging. So we are back with even more types of orgasms that the female body is capable of experiencing! How could we possibly have three more orgasms to share you ask? Well, ladies our bodies are that amazing and beautiful! Our Lora Swarts reports.

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#1 Skin or (zone) 

The skin orgasm can be brought about by massaging or touching parts of the body that are not directly related to the sexual nervous system (back of the neck, inside of the thigh and lower back).

Women can absolutely experience orgasm from a simple massage, or any stimulus to the skin because it brings on a relaxed state. If you aren't fully orgasming from this stimulation, don't worry! Touching is still amazing foreplay. Make it better by using a blindfold! Not knowing where his lips are headed is truly teasing and orgasmic.

Have you ever had an skin orgasm? Do leave a comment below!

#2 Anal

Women can experience orgasms from anal stimulation! According to The Journal of Sexual Medicine, women who orgasmed vaginally in their last sexual encounter was 65 percent. On the other hand, women who orgasmed from oral sex was 81% and women who orgasmed anally was 94%! Yeah, we were surprised, too. Check out the study here (pages 357-358). Maybe that's why women are more into anal than before or at least giving it a try.

For example, Marie Claire asked in 2011, "Is Anal the New Oral?" Quite possibly, yes! Dr. Jenn already given us advice on how to give better anal pleasure. But if you are totally new to anal pleasure, check out our anal sex mini-guide for couples! Don't forget about communication with anal sex (and all forms of new sexual activity). Also, we do recommend doucheing inside your anus and (rectum) for both men and women--before anal sex. Also, anal can be scary or nerve-racking for some women. So ask first, use a lubricant and go very slowly.

Do you have anal tips or tricks? Do leave them below!

#3 Oral or mouth  

Women who are sensitive orally can experience an oral or mouth orgasm. Kissing, licking, sucking, gently nibbling and even oral sex contribute to the mouth orgasm.

This type of orgasm can be described as beginning in the lips. Then, the orgasm spreads from the mouth to the genitals and then all over the body. Start with lots of foreplay! Making out is simple but can really send blood flowing to all over your body!

Have you ever had an oral orgasm? Do leave a comment below!

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Lora is our Editorial intern and resident health nut. When she is not writing, you can find her on her yoga mat, exploring Chicago via bicycle, or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend and Beagle puppy in the north side apartment. She has a habit of spending too much money on soy lattes and yoga clothes. Find her on Twitter @HoneyNutLo. Have any questions? Get in touch with Lora at Lora@getlusty.com.

How Do I Give My Lady Better Butt Love?

Back in anal August, we talked a lot about butt sex. Regardless, anal sex questions remain. And, of course, here at GetLusty, we don't like to leave questions unanswered, so we had to get to the bottom of this issue. It's time. Down with bad butt sex. Maybe we're just feeling like super activists on the way to our SlutWalk Chicago Flash Dance Mob event this Saturday.

Either way, you might also have questions about giving your lovely lady partner butt love. Dr. Jenn is here to help. This is a guest post from Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus, PH.D. Dr. Jenn is a sexuality and mindfulness speaker, as well as relationship and intimacy counselor.

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Dear Dr. Jenn & GetLusty,

I think it’s hot to put a finger in a girl’s butt when we are having sex "doggy style." But it doesn’t always work and sometimes my girlfriend says it hurts. What can I do about this? How can I please my girlfriend better?

Thanks,
Wannabe Anal Master

Dear Anal Master,

Anal play has become more and more popular, so thanks for your great question. First, make sure your partner is interested in experimenting with anal play. If she’s not into it, she’s going to have a hell of a time relaxing, and will likely experience pain. I don’t advise trying to ‘sneak it in’ without explicitly asking permission.

If you’re both on the same page about this, then you’re embarking into a realm of heightened pleasure. A short anatomy lesson can be helpful here.

To enter the anus, you have to pass through two sets of anal sphincter muscles. The first set are voluntary muscles, which is why relaxation on the woman’s part is important.

She can put her attention on that external muscle area, and choose to relax those muscles. However, the second ring of muscles is a different story. These internal muscles are involuntary, which means you can’t think your way into releasing them. However, they do respond to gentle, direct pressure.

From your side, Anal Master, knowing how to navigate these muscle rings is important. Playing around the outside of the anus with a well-lubed finger can help the woman concentrate on that area and relax the first sphincter muscles.

Then, gently pressing on the anus for several seconds will release the second set of muscles and allow access inside. For some women who are tense and nervous about this, it may take more time.

Remember to start small, slow, and with a lot of lubricant (particularly a thicker lube made specifically for anal play). With a little preparation, patience, and knowledge, you can definitely become the Anal Master.

Be well,
Dr. Jenn

This Q & A was originally posted over at her blog, Dr. Jenn's Den.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is a sociologist, sexuality speaker, and sex therapist, with a passion for challenging people to sexually think outside the box. 

Dr. Jenn is a public speaker on topics including healthy relationships, love, gender, mindfulness, erotic play, and happiness. She counsels individuals and couples, in person and over Skype, to assist in creating and maintaining open communication and fulfilling intimacy. Dr. Jenn is a contributing writer for Pacific San Diego Magazine and is a sex and relationship expert on Fox 5 news and San Diego Living. Follow her on Twitter @DrJennsDen and Facebook.
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