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5 Reasons You Should Date (Your Spouse)

Dating, initially it's the relationship version of an audition. You go on dates to see how well your potential partner does in the reality show of life. However, if you have been in a relationship for a while and live together or are married dating is a way of keeping things fresh and interesting. To kick off our three part series on dating, let us present to you part one. Our list of five dating benefits. GetLusty's Crimson Love reports.

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#1 Keeps things fresh

Even though you have been in a relationship with someone for a while that doesn't mean that you don't need to or shouldn't date. Dating your lover keeps your relationship fresh.

You are both taking time to go out, get dressed up and enjoy being with each other. Doing things outside of your normal routine will add some excitement and give you the chance to fall in love again especially if you get creative!

#2 Exercising compromise 

Compromise is a fundamental aspect of relationships that we often forget. When it comes to planning a date with your love, you exercise your compromising skills often. Going on a date is a give and take that symbolizes many other areas of your romance. While planning can get tough (Honey, why you don't like hip lounges, anymore?) the proof is in the pudding. Come to an agreement on where to go, what to do, and what time and have a fabulous time.

#3 Learn about your love

Dating can also put you in the perfect position to learn more about your lover. Think you know your lover better than anyone else? Go on a date and do something new together and you will learn new things about your lover you never expected.

#4 Bond

It may seem like a no brainer but don't overlook this or take this for granted. Putting yourselves in a new situation like doing a new activity can bring you and your lover closer.

 You are both learning and doing something new and in the experience that you share you bond. Over time it's easy to grow apart and your relationship become stagnant so don't be afraid to take the time to re-bond.  

#5 Get romantic

Just because you have been dating for a while and you have surpassed your honeymoon phase doesn't mean you can't have romance. Romance is a necessity for relationships. Without that you have a friendship. That's not a bad thing but having romance helps you stay engaged with each other. Romance adds fuel to that burning flame you hold with your lover.

Dating in a long term relationship will help you maintain that solid foundation on which your relationship stands on. Make it a regular part of the time you spend with your  lover and it will surly prolong the life of your relationship.

This is a post by GetLusty writer, Crimson Love. Crimson is our resident fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's in Chicago. She is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!

Have story ideas? Get in touch with Crimson Love at editorial@getlusty.com

9 Naked Date Ideas for This Weekend


Autumn is so romantic: the temperature is perfect for cuddling but still nice enough to leave the house, the food is sweet and savory and the entertainment is superb. Though Naked November came and left, that doesn't mean you can't still have a fabulous time naked! What better way to have fun then get naked? GetLusty's Crimson Love reports with ten ideas for having fun and getting naked at the same time!

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Holiday times can be rough. What better way to spend your time together than naked and having a ball?

#1 Naked board game night

Twister, anyone? Pick out your favorite game and make them a little more risqué. Make the stakes higher. For whoever wins, the sexy reward could involve cunnilingus, nipple play or anything else sexy. Ever consider sexy monopoly? Oh, yeah. Twister? Now you're thinking!

#2 Play out the scene to a movie

There is nothing quite like holding onto your partner while playing out a scene from, "The Lord of the Rings"! Is there a scene from a movie you both know so well you re-live it in your heads? Now how about naked? Being nude just makes everything more fun!

#3 Dance party!

Dance parties aren't just for Jersey Shore. This isn't the time to lower your heat. Get your own indoor dance party. Naked! You might even break a sweat. How about a quick shower after that dance party? Who hates showers with your lover? Thought so.

#4 Indoor picnic

How about setting up a warm romantic picnic in the middle of your living room? You don’t even have to put on clothes to leave the house. Rather than a meal, you can re-live the picnic setting. How about Champagne and strawberries? If you really want to get picnic-y, you could also bring in some AstroTurf. Or just some green clothes? Get creative!

#5 Add something to your bed

Get a new set of sheets. This will make your abode feel even warmer and make it even harder to leave. Take Sunday morning cuddles to the next level with satin sheets. Don't tell me that won't feel luxurious and wonderful when you're naked!


#6 Enjoy morning coffee together

Wake up earlier, cuddle, drink coffee and have some sort of pastry, if possible. Coffee in the nude is so much fun! You could also pick up a variety of creamers (Pumpkin spice? Eggnog latte?) and enjoy a little cream!

#7 Write a story together

Not just a story. Something creative. Do either of you paint? Write? Draw? Sit down together and share your passions. If you prefer to not be physically involved with another medium, read something you enjoy and lay together. Being creative while naked can take things to a different level.

#8 Bath time

When it's extra chilly, give your body some love with a bath or shower. Get clean, whip away the negative emotions about your body, and talk positively. How beautiful you are! How wonderful your partner is.

Our friend Bonnie Gayle, of Body Liberator, recommends especially during bath and shower time to love our bodies especially. So give yourself some love and tender attention. And give some of that to your partner, too!

#9 Have a cider date

Want to have a sweet and alcoholic date? Try different types of cider! Get several different flavors and brands to find out your favorite. They go very well with fall foods as well. Naked? Yes, even naked! Obviously, watch out when boiling the cider is the only issue. A little less dangerous than cooking bacon naked (think: oil), boiling liquids while naked is still slightly hazardous.

This is a guest post by our very own Crimson Love. Crimson is our resident fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's, she is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!

Have story ideas? Get in touch with Crimson at amber@getlusty.com.

10 Sexy Holiday Date Ideas for This Weekend

Whether you are celebrating Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, or Festivus, the holidays always seem to interrupt our daily routines. With long shopping lists and hours of cooking large celebratory meals, when will we ever have time for sex and romance? New Years Eve? Rather than letting the holiday frenzy take over your love life, take control of it! Here are 10 sexy date night ideas that will surely warm you up this month and keep the fires burning in your love life as well from GetLusty Lynn Olejniczak.

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#1 Get a room

If you are visiting relatives this is easy to do. If your eager family insists on putting you and your lover up, cite not wanting to be a burden, the end of the flu, or frequent traveler points are about to expire. If you are home for the holiday, book a room - for no other reason than, because you can. Getting a room gives you an opportunity to leave baggage at home and just enjoy each other. Who cares if you are loud, or if the room looks like Spinal Tap had spent the night. Taking it to the extreme is even more fun with maid service.

#2 Spa day

While every other idiot is standing in line to purchase the last flat screen TV for $10 less than anywhere else, you two are enjoying a couple’s massage. Many luxury spas offer deals this season because the masses would rather get their retail on, as opposed to relaxing. If you are lucky enough to be staying at a hotel that offers this feature en suite, go for it! It reduces travel time for that happy ending.

#3 Gift giving comes early

Shopping doesn’t have to be done at the mall - that is, unless your mall has a Hustler Store. Hitting your favorite sex boutique together for a new toy or outfit is the perfect reward after a long day with family.

#4  Fight the crowd

Bars and restaurants enjoy high volume this season with all those holiday shoppers working up an appetite; why not take advantage of it? Pick a new hot spot and arrive separately. Enjoy the dance of making eye contact from across the room, watch as someone tries to chat up your partner, send a drink over. Picking up your mate is more fun when you pretend you are somebody else for the entire evening.

#5 Sext

Stuck shopping with family, watching football with the cousins, getting a tour of the family town? Smart phones are a wonderful thing to curb the boredom and heighten the anticipation of the end of the fourth quarter. Text your fantasies to each other while doing the mundane. Time flies when you’re having fun.

#6 Get a gift for an 'experience'

Deals are everywhere. Duck into a bath store and grab some body scrub for a mutually beneficial experience. Massages are great, don’t misunderstand we love them but showing your partner some skin-love is something that doesn’t happen enough. Yes, the shower is big enough for both of you. What? You thought it was all about the scrub?

#7 Black out

Sensory Deprivation Tanks, or Isolation Tanks are one of the ultimate ways to rejuvenate. These heavy-duty salt water tanks lock out all sound and light, and allow tensions to melt away. Many places allow you to float with another, but be sure you ask if they have the right size tank to accommodate two. Awareness, sensuality, and relaxation peak after just one session so don’t pick a place too far from home.

#8 Eat in

Don’t have to deal with family? Everyone has gone home? Good. Enjoy the simple culinary pleasures of leftovers a la 9 ½ Weeks. The blindfold, the music, the whip cream…too young to know what I’m talking about? Get the movie.

#9 Make it a Blockbuster night

9 ½ Weeks is classic but why not spend the weekend on other classic titles you never got around to watching. Or just get into the spirit with a little holiday theme: Very, Very Bad Santa, Miracle on 69th Street, and Santa Sluts can bring some joy to the holiday.

#10 Truss it up

A little holiday bondage never hurt anyone. Take this opportunity to set up or reconfigure the restraining system under your bed, try a door system, or sportsheet if you prefer. Enjoy the research. Just when you think you have tried it all.

When all is said and done the holidays are supposed to be for giving, for sharing, and for freeing the love. You have done your duty for home and hearth. There are more days ahead which will test your resolution and get on your last nerve. But if you take a little holiday time for yourself, it will be much easier to make it to the New Year; sanity intact.

Lynn Olejniczak is a native Chicagoan who loves her city and everything it has to offer. She spent 10 years as a NASDAQ trader in Chicago and New York in the 90's, then went back to college when "the rules changed and I realized no one was going to pay me lots of money to swear at them anymore."

She loves good food, and a perfectly poured Guinness at any Irish pub in the city. Her Beastie Boys CDs rest comfortably next to her Misfits vinyl, and she believes Underground Garage is the best radio program known to humankind. Armed with degrees in History, and a love of Urban Planning, Lynn is currently writing and researching a book on the 80's Chicago bar scene. Get in touch with Lynn at editorial@getlusty.com.

5 Pillars of an Amazing Sexual Relationship



You feel like your missing something in your sexual relationship. Maybe you feel overall your relationship could be better. Why? These 5 things. I've been there. I started GetLusty for Couples because my relationship and sex life with my husband was less-than-stellar. But we worked on these key areas and things got better. While no marriage or couple is perfect, we're always growing, changing and improving--these pillars are absolutely essential to an amazing sexual relationship.

As you may not know, GetLusty for Couples will be launching a new version of our site on December 1st. In just one week's time, I think you'll be very excited to see our new features. Suffice to say, we're passionate about helping nurture relationships and sex. And we're committed to being a relationship improvement service. Erica Grigg, our co-Founder and Chief Lust Officer, reports.

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Based on our extensive personal research, we found 5 ways to make our marriage and sexual lives better. If we kept up these 5 different areas of our relationship, we’d have an amazing sexual relationship. We based the GetLusty for Couples platform on these pillars and needs. In launch, we'll be working to provide couples services to improve their relationships in these areas specifically. We're here to make relationships great--throughout the years. What are these pillars, you ask?


#1 Communication

If you can’t tell your partner how you’re feeling, how are you expecting them to understand you? If you don’t tell them you’re angry, how can you expect them to console you when you need it most? Communication of your feelings, problems and successes is an essential component to an amazing sexual relationship.

#2 Health

If you don't keep up with your own personal hygiene, working out and overall physical health--it's hard to feel sexy for someone else. If you don’t feel sexy, you're far less likely to want to have sex. If you don’t feel healthy, it’s also hard to have high self-esteem. Having a healthy outlook on life is beneficial for both partners. Simply, eating right, exercising regularly and maintaining a good appearance is positive for both individuals and couples.

#3 Sexual technique

If you don’t know the best ways to give head, how do you expect your partner to orgasm? If you aren’t able to orgasm, what are some other ways to achieve pleasure? Sexual technique should be easy to find and accessible. Curious about how to have anal sex? Want to be better at cunninlingus? You’re be a few clicks away!

#4 Dating (for couples)

If you only see each other in passing, how do you expect to retain your lusty love? Having a scheduled weekly or twice-monthly period where you’re simply enjoying each others’ presence is a wonderful experience to share.

You start to equate the times you’re together during dates with your overall experience. And when you’re on a date having fun, it’s easy to have an absolute blast. Isn’t that why you’re in love in the first place? Dating makes your relationship so much more fun.

#5 New experiences/adventures

So maybe you go to the same restaurant, bar or park every time you go on a date. Like all long-term relationships, things get monotonous. However, when you exit your routine, you become surprised again. The mystery and suspense of a dating relationship begins again. It’s hard not to feel the oxytocin flowing again when you jump off a cliff or travel to another city together to do something different.

This is post by Erica Grigg, our Founder and Chief Lust Officer. She's a writer, marketer, mission-driven entrepreneur and sex geek. She wants to end boring sex. If you don't see Erica riding around Chicago in her beach cruiser or at a diner with the love of her life, you see her chatting up the tech community about the importance of sex and love in marriage. Follow Erica on Twitter @ericagrigg or subscribe via Facebook and Google+.

Want to connect about business partnership with a woman-run business that cares? E-mail me directly at erica@getlusty.com.

Chicago! Pick Up Your Free Trojan Vibrator on Black Friday

We love sex toys. It's #ToyWithMeTuesday, so we're thinking about sex toys especially today! Then, we just got word from Trojan they're giving away free vibrators. Oh, my!

According to the RedEye Chicago, "Anyone willing to stand in line at the Original Mother's this Friday from 12 to 4 p.m. can receive a free Trojan vibrator, courtesy of Trojan. There will be a 'Pleasure Cart' set up near Mother's, looking like a food truck but very much not a food truck."

What kind of vibrators are they giving away? The Trojan Tri-Phoria or Pulse, both of which retail at around $40. Trojan is also giving away thousands more pleasure pieces and have already sent the campaign to New York City and Washington DC. Curious about the toys? Check out their profiles below!

More on the Tri-Phoria 'intimate massager'

According to their website: There’s so much the Tri·Phoria™ Intimate Massager can do…and that gives you a multitude of options! The three tips imitate your favorite sensations—firm pressure, tongue-like flickering and gentle focused stimulation.

Tri·Phoria™ Intimate Massager boasts 8 settings—5 speeds and 3 pulse patterns. This unparalleled combination provides seemingly endless options for your senses. Change it up or find a favorite you can rely on.

More on the Pulse 'intimate massager'

Pulse Intimate Massager puts pleasure right where you want it. It can deliver an intense, focused external stimulation, which may be particularly good for women who enjoy clitoral stimulation.

So GetLusty readers--get downtown and your free vibrator. Wondering where? Check out the location (the Original Mothers) on Google Maps below.


The Empire Brings Sexy Back: a Burlesque Review



Just when you thought our references to Star Wars were over. We reviewed Star Wars XXX: a Porn Parady and haven't. Stopped. Thinking about Star Wars that is. Thankfully, GetLusty's Shannon Andrews Ray is here with a review of a burlesque production in our very own Chicago that will tempt all Star Wars lovers and haters alike. If the Star Wars Burlesque page doesn't do it enough (it's not even human), you'll have to make it to this show!

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Just when you think it was safe to fly your Millennium Falcon and sport your latest Princess Leia hairdo, Gorilla Tango brings the Force (and sexy back) along with some great campy humor and amazing tassel work in "The Empire Brings Sexy Back: A Star Wars Burlesque Sequel".

As usual, the cast of ladies bring a real sense of the old burlesque world to the modern era with a bit of vaudeville hijinx thrown in; no punch line was left unpunched, no pun left unpunned, no tassel left untwirled. The cast even added a forward with a George Lucas "look-a-like" (if Lucas even wore short shorts and t-strap heels) who was adding a pair Mickey Mouse ears to the R2D2, reflecting the recent purchase of franchise by Disney.

Stand out performances by Gorilla Tango Burlesque regular Diva LaVida as Celebrity Bounty Hunter Boba Fett. LaVida as Fett can only be described as sleek and sexy with a pair of pasties that would make even the most die-hard rebel fighter stand at full attention. Another stand out was, and to me a total rock star, was Bonnie Cupcakes (Lando Calrissian).

As a fellow "big girl", Cupcakes was a breath of fresh air in the "Land of Clouds", and was smoother than a Colt 45 as Calrissian. She took the stage like pro and got one of the biggest and most positive reactions I've ever heard at a Gorilla performance. It's even prompted me to look into taking burlesque dancing lessons!

So, for all you fanboys & girls who just can't get enough of Yoda and Luke in the swamp. Or maybe you've always wondered what Princess Leia really wore under her snow suit on the ice-planet of Hoth, I highly recommend Gorilla Tango's, "The Empire Brings Sexy Back: A Star Wars Burlesque Sequel". It's performing November 3rd - December 29th on Saturdays at 10:30 pm. Tickets are $20 each; 18 and over only. Tickets sell out quick! So make sure to purchase your tickets in advance at www.gorillatango.com, or contact the Gorilla Tango Box Office at 773-598-4549.

Where, you ask? Why at their convenient Bucktown location of course! Check out their details below.




Shannon Andrews-Ray has been interested and active around sex blogging for years. She loves talking, thinking about and researching sex. So, of course, she's the perfect GetLusty writer!

“I was raised by a tribe of drag queens. They taught me how to be fierce with a pen and lip-gloss,” often jokes writer Shannon Andrews-Ray. Having dated both sexes for nearly 15 years, Shannon gives an ‘Alice through the Looking Glass’ spin on the often hilarious mating habits of both men and women, through her various incarnations of her dating columns. “Love’s Frosting” is her most recent tumble. Want to get in touch? Get in touch at editorial@getlusty.com.

28 Surprising Benefits of Being a Loving Couple

Do you realize how wonderful it is to have a loving spouse? Being in an amazing sexual relationship is beautiful and can be very beneficial for your overall health and even finances. Even when things get difficult, being close to someone is one of the best things life has to offer. Of course we get bored and forget how lucky we are to be close to someone. That's OK! At GetLusty, we've put together a list of just some of the benefits of being part of an awesome couple.

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#1 Waking up next to each other. Loneliness might be the most despairing aspect of being single. Opening your eyes after a long nights sleep and seeing the beautiful face of the one you love is a wonderful thing.

#2 Always having someone to see a movie with. Not to say that convenience is a benefit, but if you've found the right one, then you have a best friend who is there to share all your cinematic adventures with.

#3 Seeing the smile on your partners face when you bring them breakfast in bed. From childhood we humans have this obsessive urge to please the ones we love. We behaved this way with our parents, aunts, and grandparents. Now that we're all grown up, we want to carry this convention forward with our relationships. It gives us a sense of accomplishment, and reminds us of how loved we are.

#4 Loving the sound of your partner's annoying laugh. Being ridiculously and insanely smitten with someone is one the most exciting occurrences one will ever experience. To be so infatuated that every little annoying habit becomes a spine-tingling, hair-raising event.

#5 Being able to test your robot dance out on a captive audience. Many of us have a hard time being ourselves out in public. Some of us even dread the idea of co-worker or family member seeing how we act at home, when we're all alone. When you have that special someone in your life, you have a person who loves every silly, bizarre thing you do, and you'll love performing for them.

#6 Having someone to hold onto while you watch "The Exorcist" for the fourth time. It's not just a benefit for the ladies. No matter what your man tells you, he gets scared too, and having someone there provides a huge sense of safety. Having someone who makes you feel safe carries over to larger issues in life - not just spooky movies.

#7 Taking showers together. With your partner there for every aspect of your life, those once ordinary day-to-day tasks suddenly become potential erotic adventures.

#8 Attending your favorite sporting event together. Many singles stubbornly think that sporting events are just for the guys, but a victory make-out session is much more exciting than a few high-fives with your pals. Another benefit is the amount of adrenalin that's built up during a game. Adrenalin always makes for great sex after the match.

#9 Knowing that you have someone to depend on. Your partner is more than just bed mate, they're your companion - someone to experience this life with. Life gets hard, and complicated, and can even seem unbearable at times. The great thing about a couple is, when you fall, there is always someone there to pick you up.

#10 Feeding each other chocolate covered strawberries. Everyone loves being pampered. Whether it's sharing fruit, or a massage. You'll always have someone there to spoil you.

#11 No more depressing masturbation! We know, there will always be masturbation, no matter how often you and your partner have sex. After discovering that intense connection we call love with someone, the sexual experience ascends to something greater than just satisfying that itch in your pants.

#12 Taking vacations together. The majority of us are not loners. Deep down in our core, we crave friendship and community. When it comes to traveling, most of us are intimidated by the thought of going at it alone, so having that loved one next to you seems to arouse the explorer in us.

#13 Perpetual encouragement. Even the best of us lose a little self-esteem from time to time. It's an amazing thing to always have someone there to help rebuild your fortitude.

#14 All-night Netflix marathons. One of the most adventurous things we did in our childhood was staying up all night with our best friends, watching movies and playing games. After we all grew up, that didn't seem to happen anymore. Your friends have lives of their own now and don't seem too excited about having a slumber party with you. Well, that's what your partner is for. He or she is your new best friend, and they'll always be there to help you build that fort in the living room.

#15 Your ass will always look great in that outfit. As we've noted before, confidence is a huge issue with us humans. We are constantly worried about how others see us, and we're even a little superficial at times. Your girlfriend or boyfriend always wants to be the hottest person you know, and you always will be, because you really are the hottest person in the world to them. 

#16 The glorious majesty of oral sex. Sure, you can get a blowjob during a one-night stand, but will it be the greatest blowjob you ever receive? Probably not. Having that one person, night after night, day after day, to explore and experiment with - that's how you master the art of oral sex. Cunnilingus takes some practice, and is a different experience with every woman. Nobody knows how to blow their woman's mind on the first try. It takes time. A couple has the benefit of discovering that perfect orgasm.

#17 Relaxing in the tub together. Everyone loves a bubble bath! Having someone's slippery, naked body rubbing against yours turns that tranquil time in the tub into a romantic, and erotic engagement.

#18 Holding hands (duh!). Intimacy is incredibly fulfilling, whether it's spooning in bed, or just walking down the street, hand-in-hand. Maybe we get it from childhood, the safety and comfort of having someone hold your hand while crossing the street or wandering through a busy public space. What ever the reason, we all love doing it. 

#19 Having a road-trip partner. Before you found the love of your life, you had to ask around to find a friend who would take a trip with you. Sometimes that can be hard. Sometimes nobody wants to be stuck in a car with you for several hours at a time. A couple never has this issue. You're already spending every day together, so it might as well be spent in a car. There's not much better than exploring the open road with someone who laughs at all your bad jokes. 

#20 Having someone to split a Twix with. We're not saying you should be in a relationship just so you don't waste food, but the sharing aspect is very important. You're sharing food, experiences, thoughts - everything you love, everything you hate. You can think of it as "becoming one" with each other, or you could also see it as one person becoming twice as awesome. 

#21 Experimental cooking. Single folks usually fall into their own routine, and they stick with it until someone comes along and introduces them to something new. For the stereotypical male, it's pizza, hot wings, and anything that's easy to cook. When you find yourself in a couple, you discover this urge to try new things. You've merged your lifestyle with someone else's, and that tends to shake things up a bit. You'll both want to find ways to change those old habits of yours.

#22 Getting texts during your work day that make you feel better. You're not alone in this world. The crappy day at work doesn't have to seed into your mind when you have someone on your team, routing for you. He or she isn't just the person you hook up with at home every night, they're personal pep rally. By the end of  your shift, if won't matter how much your boss yelled at you - not when you know you're in love, and are loved in return.

#23 Having someone who makes sure you don't get too drunk. Sometimes your judgement can waver a bit, and you might need a little assistance. It's nice to have someone looking out for you - someone you will thanking in the morning.

#24 Having someone who will listen to you complain about your parents. After a while you'll notice that some of your friends don't make the best listeners, and your siblings can be a little critical, especially if you're the younger one. A couple always has someone to hear their problems, without judgement.

#25 Negotiating foot massages and back rubs. Single people need to pay people for this kind of thing. Other than the financial benefit, it can be really fun bartering for things with loving displays of affection.

#26 Realizing that even when you fight, you still love each other. You'll notice that singles don't fight. They can always just walk away from an argument, but not couples. They love and care for one another. The argument is important.

#27  Getting to experiment with pubic hair lengths. OK, this sounds a little weird, and maybe even a little gross, but think about it. There are places on your body you would never allow a lover to explore. Be in a couple for a certain amount of time and see how absurdly comfortable you become around your partner. You'll start peeing in front of each other, picking your nose in front of them, and yes, playing with their pubic hair.

#28 Knowing how lucky you are. This might not sound like an extremely important benefit right away, but try to remember the last time you felt this way. Happy couples are so damn happy because of little things like this. You'll see them around sometimes, walking tall, a modest smile on their face.

Jason Estrada is currently working on his master's for creative writing, in the hopes of becoming a very rich screenwriter some day. His other interests include photography, cinematography, and video editing. His favorite book is The Great Gatsby. Favorite movie is either The Crow or When Harry Met Sally - can't decide. And his all time favorite show is Doctor Who.

When he's not enjoying any of those things, you can find him at home, drinking and smoking way too much while listening to VNV Nation. You can email him at jason@getlusty.com, or try his Facebook page.

20 Fun-Filled Fall Date Ideas for Couples



Autumn is one of the most romantic seasons: the temperature is perfect for cuddling but still nice enough to leave the house. Brittany Meyer provides a list of our top autumn dates! Some are clothing optional!

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Without ado, here are 24 fall date ideas - some clothed, some not!

#1 Visit a pumpkin patch

Leave the kids at the babysitter! We're talking about a relaxing day between the two of you! There are a whole host of Pumpkin Patches across Chicago. Then, there are even more Pumpkin Patches near Chicago! Really want to bring the kids? Several are more geared towards children, so do a bit of research before you come without your panties on.

#2 Pumpkin carving

So you just arrived home after a visit to the Pumpkin Patch. Now what? After your pumpkin patch visit, bring them home and decide what carving designs you can do together. There are numerous Halloween options, or there are also options for Thanksgiving, too! It might seem a bit cheesy, but it's going to be a fun activity you can work on together.

#3 Get cooking

Don't throw your extra Pumpkin away! Using an additional pumpkin, (or the insides of the carved pumpkins) cook seeds, make Pumpkin salsa, Pumpkin fritters, Pumpkin pie. You can make just about anything with a raw or cooked Pumpkin. Fall is the time to enjoy Pumpkin in all kinds of dishes. Check out more recipe ideas for Pumpkin!

Squash, apples, cranberries, pomegranates and kale are all in season in the fall, so take advantage of their abundance and deliciousness!


 Fall recipes are back, utilizing seasonal foods for you to whip up in a hurry or simmering over an entire day. Get some ideas for new hot dinner and lunches. Coming back from a cold day out is made better by a fall soup to heat you up.


#4 Apple picking

It's that time again. Apple picking is in order! We've talked about it before. You two should get out there and pick some crisp, juicy apples! Find a Chicago orchard and pick apples for cider, baking, or dip! Check out some apple recipes from the Food Network! Can you say, Yummy!?

#5 Walks in parks

The leaves are changing colors, the weather is refreshing and sunny. Nothing says fall like the colors. Enjoy the sights and smells on a leisurely walk through your neighborhood park.

#6 Get outta' town

There are so many beautiful areas across the country. Just outside your city are a host of quaint little towns. Haven't seen the foliage outside of your city? You might be amazed by a natural setting outside of your home town. Visiting National Park isn't just for the summer. Enjoy a leisure drive in a rural setting on the way there.

Sometimes going somewhere new can be exhilarating. Find a cute restaurant or coffee shop with some sort of specialty and give it a try!

#7 Look for local fall parades and farmers' markets

Farmers' Markets are a wonderful way to connect with seasonal, local, and organic ingredients grown near your own back yard. For our fellow Chicagoans, check out the schedule for Chicago Farmers' Markets. You probably have a budding farmers' market system in your city that you never knew about!

#8 Dress in warm clothing, turn the heat down, and have a picnic indoors

For those not interested in leaving or wanting a more intricate picnic menu, stay indoors. Put the couch pillows on the floor with a blanket over them, open the windows, dress warm and enjoy the easy access to your bedroom.



#9 Paint

When was the last time you both created something together? How about painting a new room? Or how about painting a design on your wall? When you create new things together, you'll use team work to make your furnishings a little brighter. Go on. It'll be fun!

#10 Try a cinnamon scented moisturizer or soap to inspire sweet smells and touches 

Does your apartment smell like dirty socks? It happens. How about smelling like Cinnamon sticks instead? Getting a little something new to change up your scent is surprisingly noticeable. You're used to a certain smell. Switching this up can make a big difference. You can also go for a different cologne or perfume--that'll make a big difference, too! Just check-in with your partner to make sure they like it.

#11 Go on a picnic

It isn't winter yet so take this opportunity to venture outdoors! This would be a great time to bring all your wonderful fall recipes to one nice experience. Take a look at some perfect picnic meals here. Go here for a more vegetarian picnic.

#12 Have Fall-themed potluck with other happy couples

Enjoying your time with other happy couples can make you realize the beauty of being married/coupled. Others are in love and that sparks your own interest. How about a potluck? Invite several other couples you know to a Fall-themed potluck!


#13 Watch ‘When Harry Met Sally’

The orgasm scene? When they met? How the story plays out? It gets me teary every time I think about it. Come now, gents. When was the last time you watched a romantic movie together? Bring on the popcorn, this one is going to be cute! When Harry Met Sally is the perfect fall romance movie.

#14 Think of Halloween costumes you would only wear for each other

Of course GetLusty has ideas for sexy Halloween costumes! Are you a thrift shopper? Maybe you love retail? Fall is the ideal time to get some sexy, crazy outfits. Costume shopping can be even more fun when you are buying something that's for your partner's eyes only.

#15 Work out together

At GetLusty for Couples, we believe health is one of the key pillars of an amazing sexual relationship. Exercise can be a wonderful activity to do together. You're both feeling fit, active, and happy. Of course we have workout ideas.

Top 9 Naked November Dates

#16 Naked board game night

Twister, anyone? Pick out your favorite game and make them a little more risqué. Make the stakes higher. For whoever wins, the sexy reward could involve cunnilingus, nipple play, or anything else sexy. Ever consider sexy monopoly? Oh, yeah.

#17 Watch a romantic movie

No clothes. No problem. Cuddle and revel in the adorable plots of a Fall-centered romantic comedy -- even if they're from 2004. "Last of the Mohicans"? OK, so it's a little bit of a tear-jerker. But cuddling naked could also lead to other fun times. 

#18 Play out the scene to a movie

There is nothing quite like holding onto your partner while playing out a scene from The Lord of the Rings! Is there a scene from a movie that you both know so well, you re-live it in your heads? Now how about naked? Being nude just makes everything more fun!

#19 Dance party!

Dance parties aren't just for Jersey Shore. This isn't the time to lower your heat. Get your own indoor dance party. Naked! You might even break a sweat. How about a quick shower after that dance party? Who hates showers with your lover? Thought so.


#20 Add something to your bed

Get a new set of sheets. This will make your abode feel even warmer and make it even harder to leave. Take Sunday morning cuddles to the next level with satin sheets. Don't tell me that won't feel luxurious and wonderful when you're naked!

#21 Enjoy morning coffee together

Wake up earlier, cuddle, drink coffee and have some sort of pastry, if possible. Coffee in the nude is so much fun! You could also pick up a variety of creamers (Pumpkin spice? Eggnog latte?) and enjoy a little cream! Be sure to let your coffee cool down first. We don't want anyone getting burned.

#22 Write a story together

Not just a story. Something creative. Do either of you paint? Write? Draw? Sit down together and share your passions. If you prefer to not be physically involved with another medium, read something you enjoy and lay together. Being creative while naked can take things to a different level.

#23 Bath time

When it's extra chilly, give your body some love with a bath or shower. Get clean, whip away the negative emotions from your body, and talk positively. How beautiful you are! How wonderful your partner is!

#24 Have a cider date

Want to have a sweet and alcoholic date? Try different types of cider! Get several different flavors and brands to find out your favorite. They go very well with fall foods as well.

Enjoy being together and enjoy Fall!

Brittany just moved to Chicago after finishing her degree from FSU and arrived with a thirst to learn about everything that has to do with sex. Having been involved with The F-Word, The Vagina Monologues, amateur drag and a Human Sexuality course she is a very sex positive lady. When she's not admiring architecture or looking for a design job, Brittany does stand-up comedy and thinks of ways to make people on the CTA feel uncomfortable. She also eats high-fives for breakfast. Follow her on twitter @sedanimal. E-mail her directly at brittany@getlusty.com.

Why Have Spontaneous Sex





You may be thinking, "Seriously? I can't do that! I have children." Depending on your situation, you may need to plan slightly. But even then--the element of surprise in your sexual encounters makes a difference! Eric Amaranth is here to talk about why spontaneity in sex matters.

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We generally think that sex almost always starts with an intense turn-on then spontaneous sex! As we've talked about, scheduling sex is a great way to have more of it. So you might think if it’s not spontaneous it’s not hot or worth spending time doing. When you’re single, it’s much easier to pull that off as we know. With children, extra demands on our time, more responsibilities, etc, the inspiration and time for spontaneous sex decreases naturally. Because couples are fixed on this sex form, as I call it, even less sex comes about. Thus, planning comes into it and the excitement of anticipation.

I tell my clients to take both of their options, in many cases, not just one. We know you can’t plan on spontaneity rising forth, no pun intended. You can’t wait for that. Do both. Plan hot sex dates and look forward to spontaneous moments.

Many find that as their sexual sophistication grows, they will plan a sex night, put it on the calendar and get started with it. Then, during that sex session, spontaneous, hot, new things often happen. As well, the couple returns to previous hot things done before that rise out of nowhere. That’s another important way to enjoy spontaneity in sex.

Here’s one way to create the turn-on of anticipation: your spouse sends you a hot email or text on what they can’t wait to do to your body tonight, for example. That’s attention! Fun, smoldering hot attention. Now you can’t wait for it either. Another point related to this is as you and your partner get better at giving each other sexual pleasure and big orgasms, your interest to have more sex, spontaneous or not, always increases.

It’s simple. If the cuisine is amazing, physical and/or mental issues aside, you want more. You don’t always have to be in the mood, the moment doesn’t have to be perfect, none of that. I’ve started having sex countless times when I’m not “horny,” but because of my skill set and often that of my partner’s I know it’s not going to be long at all before she and I are in a very different mood.

I understand the erotic of spontaneous sex as people know it. It’s great stuff! However, there are other paths to great sex. Never bottle yourself in too much, especially with regards to this issue. I never would have gained the understanding of sexual pleasure making and had the amount of sex that I’ve had and have if I left it all up to spontaneity.

Real life things do get embroiled. But as I’ve witnessed in my own life and the lives of my sex life coaching clients, everyone deal with those things together much better when they have a strong sexual connection. Their sex life together becomes an oasis and an encouragement for standing by each other. That’s that being in love thing. The trick is to stay in love beyond limerence. Reader, if you haven’t heard of limerence, look it up. It’s something everyone needs to know about.

Lastly, I know psychology studies have placed the time frame for the end of the honeymoon phase at within a year. Science has proven the seven year itch is now the three year itch. Science is an awesome tool. However, it has disadvantages. It is the proverbial microscope. It observes what’s happening in our present. It is not as good at giving an accurate picture of the “what if's."

I wonder, what if many more relationships had the high quality sex life? What if our culture experienced sex in a higher/ better form than we currently know it? Would those stats be different? I’m running the experiment, if you will, every time I work with a client. My results thus far are a resounding, yes.

Originally posted at Sex Life Coach NYC.

Eric Amaranth is a sex life coach, working in NYC and globally via video conference, who specializes in women’s and men’s sexuality, basic to advanced sex skills, and high-end sex education. Individuals and couples are guided toward the relationship, intimacy, and sexual enjoyment goals they desire most.

Amaranth believes that for the majority of people, appreciation of ourselves and our romantic partners is one of the best sustainable resources we have to continuously renew attraction, maintain respect, and stay in love with our partners. This bedrock of deep appreciation is founded and reinforced by the combination of loving relationship skills with breathtaking sexual skills. Follow him on Twitter @eric_amaranth.

Why We Love Freud


We often think about sex. Why? Sex is one of those instinctual urges. This is an idea Sigmund Freud talked about frequently. Shannon Ray is here to talk about why Freudian ideas and Freud himself influences sex today.

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Sex through history

Throughout history, sex has played a major role. Wars have been started due to it; think Helen of Troy. Clothing has been designed to hide it; think Victorian era or to enhance it; think rubber, leather and latex. The type of beer and automobile we purchase are due to hidden sexual messages in advertisements. Even the expression "getting laid" dates back to the customers of a 1900’s Chicago bordello the "Everleigh Club". ("I’m going to get Everleighed tonight.") Some feel that our very existence comes down to simply getting laid, that sex is the primary motivation for our existence.

Freud's sexual theories

Sigmund Freud was one of those people. His belief was that everything we do is in relation to sex. Case in point: Being a pet owner shows the "softer" side of one's persona: a caretaker, a giver. We earn a paycheck to show that we are stable and able to provide. We shower and brush our teeth, and practice good general hygiene to attract others to us.

Even though there are some of us who choose not to mate, we are inherently sexual creatures. In the end, it’s all smoke and mirrors to attract someone into our “sexual web." Sex is wired into our brains- whether we like it our not.

In situations, difficult or not, we get defensive about those three little letters: S E X. No matter your social class, income level, gender role or credit history- sex is a part of our lives. Either we are not getting enough or we are getting too much. It’s either too kinky or too vanilla for our taste buds. Our partners are either too fast on the draw or too slow for words. Sex rarely seems to be just right. But when it is, it’s the equal to a starvation diet that ends with a buffet. It’s the best we ever had and we’re not too proud to beg for more. And though you may not agree with Freud or me we both have a point:

In the end, is sex the reason? Give it a moment and think about it.

Thinking about primping

How vigilant would we be in our primping ritual if sex weren’t the wanted result in the end? Would a Stairmaster really be a high priority if no one were there to watch our asses? That last piece of pizza or cheese Danish would be finished off with a smile instead of a dismal sigh while calculating calories. And even when we do get the prize, is it really worth it? Wouldn’t all this be much easier if we purchased a vibrator and lived like we wanted to?

Let’s take for example a typical relationship (which in the end is really just code for wanting sex on a regular basis):

You meet and are freshly groomed from your non-showing roots atop your head to your freshly painted toenails. You’re on your best behavior; all the time your hormones are in overdrive. The courting process has officially begun. This means that you must wear only your sexiest underwear, shave and moisturize your legs, and carry extra breath mints in the purse that you never used to carry. (Because, as everyone knows, you need to look both sexy and organized when trying to get laid.) You’re beyond witty, beyond charming, beyond anything you’ve ever been. This is no ordinary persona, this is “super you”. This is your “gonna get me some” self.

Finally the big night arrives. You’ve polished, waxed, shaved, trimmed, and tweezed as much as possible. There are enough candles to light a small village. Hours have been spent cleaning the entire house- just in case there’s a pre-sex inspection.

Soon the fresh sheets are no more. The sex monster has beckoned and you have answered the call. All the time, wishing you had checked your caller ID prior to answering. Soon enough, you’ll be wearing your faded flowered underwear instead of the black thong. Your roots will be showing, proving that you’re really not that true blonde, brunette or redhead. Some dismiss this as the “groove” of a relationship. But let’s face some facts. The let down has happened, the sexual conquest is over and it wasn’t much to write home about. And all that’s left are some melted candles and stale breath mints.

Before long, we’ll be primping ourselves and be back on the prowl. And none the wiser for we never really learned our lessons. If we luck out tonight, it’s back to scrubbed walls and organizational clutches. If not, I suggest investing in a vibrator and a brownie or two.

Shannon Ray has been interested and active around sex blogging for years. She loves talking, thinking about and researching sex. So, of course, she's the perfect GetLusty writer!

“I was raised by a tribe of drag queens. They taught me how to be fierce with a pen and lip-gloss,” often jokes writer Shannon Andrews-Ray. Having dated both sexes for nearly 15 years, Shannon gives an ‘Alice through the Looking Glass’ spin on the often hilarious mating habits of both men and women, through her various incarnations of her dating columns. “Love’s Frosting” is her most recent tumble. Want to get in touch? E-mail her here.

G Boutique: a Chicago Sex Boutique Fav

G Boutique is one of Chicago's few wonderful adult stores. It's located in the Bucktown area of Chicago at 2131 N. Damen Avenue. Not sure how to use Google Maps? We even located it on a map for you at the bottom of this article. Aren't we nice?

They sell everything from lingerie, to toys, to porn, to lusty accessories, oh my! In business since 2002, their goal is to provide women and men alike a fun, safe, relaxed environment to do their personal sexy shopping. They do cater especially to ladies, yay!

Why? The owners of G Boutique are two ladies! Cheryl and Kari. Two friends brought together by mutual family friends who originally wanted to write erotica.

Instead, they got the idea that it would fabulous for Chicago to have a store run by women for women. And who doesn't love a good feminist sex toy store? They wanted to make women feel like they were coming into a store run by their girlfriends.

G Boutique professionals are knowledgeable and open to answering any questions you have about sex, sex toys, and all other things lusty.

Shoppers are 18+ and range in interests, occupations, orientation and sex. Haven't been to early to G Boutique yet? Stop by and we are sure you won't be disappointed.

They brought in some theatre friends to help design the space and before you knew it something sexy was born. As you can see in the picture below, the store design looks inviting and gorgeous. For more information, visit the G Boutique website! Haven't been to G Boutique yet?


Plan your first trip and some support them as GetLusty ramps up as a media sponsor and partner on upcoming events! Good things are coming in the near future, lovely readers!

Can you find G Boutique on the map below? Check it out!




This is a guest post by our very own Crimson Love.

Crimson is our resident BDSM fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's, she is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!

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