Keeping your dating life spicy as a couple is not easy. Work and other commitments can make it easy to skip the hot date and go to sleep. Here at GetLusty, we think that dating your spouse is a great way to help your relationship and enhance your sex life. GetLusty's resident kinkster Portia Blush provides us with 5 date ideas that will spice up your winter nights.
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You're worked hard all day, and you can't wait until the weekend so you can spend some alone time with your lover. It can be all too easy to let the stress from the work week seep into your love life, and make planning for anything more than the usual, "dinner and a movie" seem like too much effort, but that doesn't have to be the case! Keeping that passion for your lover alive is just as important, and need not seem daunting. Here are some simple, yet super sexy ideas to spice up your date night to make it fun, exciting, and hot!
#1 Picnic with a twist
A romantic feast for all your lover's senses! Plan a picnic for just for the two of you, and blindfold your lover to heighten and indulge all of their senses as you feed them sumptuous treats.
Pick an array of your lover's favorite foods, or create a menu that will flirt with and tease their taste buds. Pick foods of different tastes (from sweet to savory), temperatures, textures, and scents to engage all of their 5 senses.
Make it a multiple course meal, or make it all just about desserts. Feed them with your fingers. Make it sensual and erotic. Don't let the cold weather stop you either! You can do this right on your living room floor on a blanket in front of the roaring fireplace, or by candlelight. Set the mood further with some of your favorite romantic music. It is sure to be a night in the two of you will not soon forget!
#2 Theatrical dinner date
Role playing in the bedroom can be ultra fun and sexy, but this fun date idea takes this one step further! On your next date night choose a restaurant or a bar to meet at and a time, and then when you both arrive, pretend not to know one another and go from there!
You can choose to dress to fit whatever character that you want to be, or you can create your persona based on body language and dialogue alone! Pretend to be the stranger picking up the woman at the bar, or the woman who seduces the stranger into a one night stand! You can pick places that are as classy or down to earth as you choose. I like restaurants in upscale hotels for this, as it adds to the fantasy, and you can book a room to go up to as the evening progresses. It goes without saying that you should talk basic parameters before you do this, just to make sure you're both on the same page. It's a fun and safe way to not only live out your fantasies, but spice up your existing love life as well!
#3 Couples massage
It's not really all that kinky, but it's definitely a sensuous way to spend a date night together! Book a night at a spa for a couples massage for you and your lover, and enjoy relaxing together as you both unwind from the tensions of the work day. Massage is not only deeply soothing, but also very beneficial to your overall health and well-being. Not to mention reawakening to the senses! It can be a wonderful prelude to a sensual and romantic evening back home in the bedroom, or you can book a hotel that offers massage in-room, and enjoy a get-away from the familiar as well!
#4 Skinny dipping
Now, I know, it's winter! You think I am crazy for even mentioning this, but remember it will be warm soon enough! Pick a favorite lakeside, river, or ocean spot, and indulge yourselves in a sexy swim together in the buff. Not only is it playfully sensual to swim in the nude with a partner, but it can also be quite romantic as well. The fear of "getting caught" can add to the thrill of swimming in the nude for some people too! You can go in the early morning for a sunrise swim, or in the dark for more privacy. I personally love a moonlit swim in a lake with a lover. Too anxious to wait for warmer weather for this? Why not share a quiet romantic night together nude in your hot tub?
#5 Fun in the dark
Turn your next movie or theatre date into a hot and playful tease for what's to come (pun intended, of course! Next time you go to that movie together, pick a more secluded row, and get frisky in the dark with one another.
Touch, fondle, and tease your lover in the dark, and watch temperatures rise! Make it into a game to see how quiet your partner can be. There's the exhibitionist thrill in the air, and we all know this can make things hotter! See how close you can bring your partner to that lustful edge, without letting them go over. Then, take all that deliriously hot energy home and watch the passion explode in your bedroom!
These are just a few of the kinky date possibilities out there. Maybe some of these ideas have sparked more of your very own already The imagination knows no bounds, so have fun creating and exploring your own new experiences together!
Seeking to shatter the myth that "nice girls don't talk about sex", and somehow trying to survive her mid-30's in suburbia without large doses of vodka, Portia Blush is a saucy Sapiosexual who shares with an infectious wit and a candid vulnerability about her explorations of sex, love, intimacy, kink, the occasional obsession, and everything in between; one true story at a time.
She has over 10 years experience playing Switchy in the BD/SM scene, and has explored a myriad of relationship configurations from monogamous to poly. She holds a BFA from some hoity-toity NYC art school, and still ponders the meaning of life on a regular basis. Follow her on Twitter @erogenousblog and Facebook and of course, ErogenoUS her blog.
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You're worked hard all day, and you can't wait until the weekend so you can spend some alone time with your lover. It can be all too easy to let the stress from the work week seep into your love life, and make planning for anything more than the usual, "dinner and a movie" seem like too much effort, but that doesn't have to be the case! Keeping that passion for your lover alive is just as important, and need not seem daunting. Here are some simple, yet super sexy ideas to spice up your date night to make it fun, exciting, and hot!
#1 Picnic with a twist
A romantic feast for all your lover's senses! Plan a picnic for just for the two of you, and blindfold your lover to heighten and indulge all of their senses as you feed them sumptuous treats.
Pick an array of your lover's favorite foods, or create a menu that will flirt with and tease their taste buds. Pick foods of different tastes (from sweet to savory), temperatures, textures, and scents to engage all of their 5 senses.
Make it a multiple course meal, or make it all just about desserts. Feed them with your fingers. Make it sensual and erotic. Don't let the cold weather stop you either! You can do this right on your living room floor on a blanket in front of the roaring fireplace, or by candlelight. Set the mood further with some of your favorite romantic music. It is sure to be a night in the two of you will not soon forget!
#2 Theatrical dinner date
Role playing in the bedroom can be ultra fun and sexy, but this fun date idea takes this one step further! On your next date night choose a restaurant or a bar to meet at and a time, and then when you both arrive, pretend not to know one another and go from there!
You can choose to dress to fit whatever character that you want to be, or you can create your persona based on body language and dialogue alone! Pretend to be the stranger picking up the woman at the bar, or the woman who seduces the stranger into a one night stand! You can pick places that are as classy or down to earth as you choose. I like restaurants in upscale hotels for this, as it adds to the fantasy, and you can book a room to go up to as the evening progresses. It goes without saying that you should talk basic parameters before you do this, just to make sure you're both on the same page. It's a fun and safe way to not only live out your fantasies, but spice up your existing love life as well!
#3 Couples massage
It's not really all that kinky, but it's definitely a sensuous way to spend a date night together! Book a night at a spa for a couples massage for you and your lover, and enjoy relaxing together as you both unwind from the tensions of the work day. Massage is not only deeply soothing, but also very beneficial to your overall health and well-being. Not to mention reawakening to the senses! It can be a wonderful prelude to a sensual and romantic evening back home in the bedroom, or you can book a hotel that offers massage in-room, and enjoy a get-away from the familiar as well!
#4 Skinny dipping
Now, I know, it's winter! You think I am crazy for even mentioning this, but remember it will be warm soon enough! Pick a favorite lakeside, river, or ocean spot, and indulge yourselves in a sexy swim together in the buff. Not only is it playfully sensual to swim in the nude with a partner, but it can also be quite romantic as well. The fear of "getting caught" can add to the thrill of swimming in the nude for some people too! You can go in the early morning for a sunrise swim, or in the dark for more privacy. I personally love a moonlit swim in a lake with a lover. Too anxious to wait for warmer weather for this? Why not share a quiet romantic night together nude in your hot tub?
#5 Fun in the dark
Turn your next movie or theatre date into a hot and playful tease for what's to come (pun intended, of course! Next time you go to that movie together, pick a more secluded row, and get frisky in the dark with one another.
Touch, fondle, and tease your lover in the dark, and watch temperatures rise! Make it into a game to see how quiet your partner can be. There's the exhibitionist thrill in the air, and we all know this can make things hotter! See how close you can bring your partner to that lustful edge, without letting them go over. Then, take all that deliriously hot energy home and watch the passion explode in your bedroom!
These are just a few of the kinky date possibilities out there. Maybe some of these ideas have sparked more of your very own already The imagination knows no bounds, so have fun creating and exploring your own new experiences together!
Seeking to shatter the myth that "nice girls don't talk about sex", and somehow trying to survive her mid-30's in suburbia without large doses of vodka, Portia Blush is a saucy Sapiosexual who shares with an infectious wit and a candid vulnerability about her explorations of sex, love, intimacy, kink, the occasional obsession, and everything in between; one true story at a time. She has over 10 years experience playing Switchy in the BD/SM scene, and has explored a myriad of relationship configurations from monogamous to poly. She holds a BFA from some hoity-toity NYC art school, and still ponders the meaning of life on a regular basis. Follow her on Twitter @erogenousblog and Facebook and of course, ErogenoUS her blog.
