Because superstars are amazing kissers. Either way, kissing is beautiful! Who doesn't enjoy a great kiss as part of foreplay? Kissing is a wonderful part of foreplay. And what better time to think about how to enjoy your lover than Dick & Dildo December? Well, have we got some great tips for you! Dr. Carlen, our favorite Sexologist from London, Ontario, is here to give you some tips to make the most of this aspect of your foreplay experience.* * *
One of the most iconic visuals of love and admiration that pop culture falls back on is through the public witness of a kiss. One can say that a kiss can either make or break not only you, but a potential intimate relationship. Bad kissing is up there for being one of the top ten reasons why you shouldn’t turn down a second date, but who’s to say it doesn’t have a small part if you’re sitting on the edge?
“The definition of a kiss is relatively simple: It is either the mouth-to-mouth orientation of two individuals or the pressing of one’s lips on some other part of another’s body” (Science of Kissing, Sheril Kirshenbaum). Kissing, no matter where you`re from, how you do it or who you`re doing it to is one of the most intimate ways we can connect with another person. In our swapping of spit, twisting tongues and locking lips, kissing has always been part of the language of love, yet only a few have mastered it’s techniques.
Whether it’s innate or a cultural phenomenon, the panel is still out. Either way, here are a few tips for making your next kiss a lip locker rocker rather than a tongue tied mistake.
#1 Oral hygiene
Is your mouth well equipped to take on a lip locking adventure? What some people forget is that a kiss not only involves just the lips, but when you’re rolling in the deep the rest of your mouth comes along for the ride. Keeping your oral hygiene up by visiting your dentist at minimum twice per year, along with your own personal regiment requires planning and toothy tenacity that can make or break you at ‘hello’.
Make sure you’re rocking some fresh breath, keeping your tongue scraped daily and floss when you can. No one likes the entrée to appear in their mouth after dessert. On a big date and need to keep it fresh? Don’t worry it’s easy to make sure you’re packing. Keeping a pack of breath mints or gum makes sure you’ve practiced safe breathe & kiss safely (Dentyne gum); especially if you’re a lover of fine foods such as coffee, wine or garlic. Taking care of your entire mouth will only make it more appealing when those pearly whites appear for a good ol’ flirt-on.
#2 Loaded lips
As sexy as it is in music videos when the star has lacquered lips – along with a makeup artist and professional lighting, one of the downsides is usually a main squeeze with a glossy face that is nothing short of just a sticky mess. Lip chap, lipstick with stain, and a light gloss that you can reapply all keep your pout pretty but make them kissable and fabulously desirable at the same time.
Men need to be aware of lip maintenance care too. No one likes to kiss a chappy chap! All men, especially when you’re facing cold & dry climates, need to also remember to keep their lips luscious with some daily maintenance too. Keep a lip balm with SPF in your man bag, inner coat pocket or desk drawer. Balms with mint, light berry or my favourite Dr. Pepper flavors keep any lip lover always coming back for a second taste.
#3 Kissing style
Whether you’re in a heavy make out or having your first kiss, when the slip of the tongue ensues, keep it classy & sassy instead of saucy and raunchy. If you find that your mate is pulling away a little, they might just be coming up for air and trying to avoid the suction of your Bermuda-triangle tongue. Mix up your style to avoid this mishap! A little lip suck, a mildly twisty tongue, a bottom lip nibble… all bring you attention when penning your kiss signature. But just be sure you exercise your new techniques at the right time. No one likes to see a make out session in front of Grandma at Thanksgiving. Light kisses, deep kisses, fun kisses and pecks are all ways to mix it up and keep your lover at labial attention.
#4 The body kiss
It’s easy to forget that an awesome kiss involves more than just the right lip lock magic. To leave a lasting impression involves your whole body.
Using your hands to lightly caress her back, pressing your hips closer to theirs, blowing lightly on their necks and nibbling their earlobes are all ways to pump up the volume on a kiss that will leave a lasting impression.
Often, we can find ourselves focusing too much on our mouths instead of feeling the flow of the moment. Kissing on the lips is only one way we can connect with our mouths physically to someone. It’s important to use the rest of your body to send positive signals that you’re in the moment and you’re just as interested as they are. The right caress or kiss in another erogenous zone, such as the neck or collarbone can trigger pleasurable sensations that pulse right through the entire body.
#5 Luscious lip attitude
The main thing to remember when deciding to go in for the kill is to have confidence and a sexified attitude. Having the confidence and knowing for you that you are a delicious diva and can pick up that lover for a ride to pleasure town is one of the hottest assets a person can have. It’s all about your attitude and confidence going into it. If you’re having fun, your lip locking lover will be too! So get out there and make sure they remember you with your signature kiss.
Originally posted on Dr. Carlen's Sexy Living Tumblr.
Dr. Carlen Costa is pretty awesome. A resident of London, Ontario in Canada, she's making waves in London and beyond.As a Sexologist, "Sexy Living with Dr. Carlen" is the creation of a safe space in order to discuss concerns, desires or general questions in regards to your relationship with your partner, yourself, and others. Send me questions, send me your thoughts! Through this we will cater to all orientations, genders and age groups. We are all Sexy beings, and should feel as such in our own skins. Find Dr. Carlen on Twitter @DrCarlen and 'Like' her Facebook page.
