Now that you've heard about Fifty Shades of Grey, you might be wondering if BDSM is going to be a big investment. Well, to do it right, leather and suede whips and high-quality corsets are beautiful and well worth their price tag. But if you're just getting into it, we recommend trying BDSM out for size first. GetLusty's UK-based Sara Albaladejo explains more.
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So after having a chat about it you and your hubby are up for trying some BDSM, brilliant! The idea of being tied gets both of you in the dirty mood. You can almost feel the teasing of that flogger along your thighs leaving you breathless… Hold on, you don’t have any of those leathery, kinky toys? Don’t worry, we are going to give you some inexpensive ideas that will turn any object in a potential tool of pleasure!
Game of sensations
You can start to heat up the engine through playing with the sensations of your lover, make him or her beg for more! Although you can use flavors and scents to create different reactions, the skin is the largest organ in your body, why not take advantage of it? Increasing its sensitivity will get you ready to feel the experience to the highest level. Have a look inside your closet, I bet you can easily find the following three items.
- Scarf: use it to slowly caress the whole of the body. The sensation it creates depends on the thickness of the skin and the amount of nerves you are touching, use it wisely. Try going from her knees to her pussy and up to her breasts, it will make her shiver with pleasure.
- Feathers: Are you ticklish? Get a smile out of your man! It will make both of you feel comfortable and relaxed.
- Studded belt: Is the previous too soft for you? Give your old punkie belt a second chance. Vary the pressure you apply but be careful if the spikes you are using are likely to damage the skin of your lover, we don't like blood in our sheets!
Get tied up
One of Anna and Christian’s favorite sex practices. How many times has she been tied up and handcuffed before having orgasm after orgasm? Bondage has always been a big one in BDSM and it is definitely worth adding to your bedroom repertoire.
- Tie: Easy, cheap and sexy. Take it off his shirt in the middle of an enticing kiss, swing it around your finger, slide your hands through it and give him a cheeky look. By that point he should have got the hint. Get yourself ready.
- Rope/laces: About to throw those trainers? Keep the laces because they may come in handy soon. Would you like a collar for that pussycat? Go for a sexy shop with your couple to your dollar-store, you will probably find this and much more for a few bucks (in case you are using plastic or rough material remember to watch out for friction burns!).
- Tights: Another piece of clothes you should slide off her with a dirty look and a dirtier purpose. Try tracing wet kisses up and down those legs before tying her hands up.
Turn the lights off
Are you afraid of darkness? Here's the best way to cure it: close your eyes and let the rest of your senses have control of your body.
- Fabric: If the clothes you are wearing are too expensive to be torn off in the heat of the passion, tear an old t-shirt off to get an on-the-go blindfold.
- Sleep mask: Worried about your beauty sleep? Check out our article on 9 surprising health benefits of sex and give that sleeping mask a better use. After what is waiting for you your body will be so relaxed that you won’t need it anymore.
- Hands: challenge her/his self-control and reward accordingly. If you move, Miss Steele, Christian won’t have mercy upon you.
Enjoy smacking their ass
The raw sound of the hit. The touch of his hand against your hot naked skin. The moan of pleasure bursting out your lips… If you aren’t already loving being spanked or the simple act of spanking, you are wasting time!
- Hair brush: Be greedy and enjoy both sides of your hair brush; use the bristles to caress your lover’s skin and the flat part to give that naughty ass what it deserves.
- Slippers: As a kid I was always threatened to be spanked with a slipper if I misbehaved. Who would have said that I was going to enjoy it this much as an adult?
- Belt: Not for the faint of heart. Once you feel comfortable with your spanking technique (and I’m sure you will have loads of practice!) try using a plain belt to get a harder hit,
you will soon see those butt-cheeks
wiggling in surprise and delight.
Thanks to Korean Fashion for photo #1, Shirtskey for photo #2 and Padme Amidala's Journey to the Darkside for photo #3!
Sara is our resident, sexy British-Spanish writer. After finishing high school she followed the family tradition of becoming a teacher, and graduated as a Foreign Language Primary Teacher in 2011. Since then she has been living in the UK, where she copes with the British weather with her loving boyfriend. She is passionate about writing and was awarded various contests in Spain (where she was born) and has also been recognized one of the best writers of her age in her region in 2010. She loves taking her camera out whenever she can, as photography is another of her hobbies.
