Let's talk more about female orgasm and that ever-so-important activity of foreplay. Tia Champagne is here again to talk about why foreplay is essential, including the female orgasm.
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So far, we’ve talked about vulva, penis, foreskin and breasts, oh my! Now that we know what they do and why, we can talk a little bit about why we actually care: orgasms. We want orgasms. Me, you, the short guy down sitting across from you, and the chubby, fine young lady sitting next to you (who very possibly, could be me). We want orgasms and we want them NOW.
So let’s talk about what they are from a physical perspective and how we can get them. Now, tomorrow, and for always. It's time for talk of the female orgasm.What is the female orgasm?
Orgasm (from Greek οργασμός orgasmos, from organ to mature, swell, also sexual climax) is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by an intense sensation of pleasure. For women, there are rhythmic muscular contractions that produce stimulation and pleasure, which is considered an orgasm. Now, an orgasm is not a nod or shake of the head type of good feeling.
It’s usually a “I don't hear you. And even if I could, I don’t care what you’re saying—OMG,” type of good feeling. While experiencing an orgasm, usually women feel different surges of pleasure coming from the clitoris, the labia minora, majora, and the vaginal hole itself. The difference between a great sensation and an actual orgasm is the contractions—your vaginal lips pulsating and secreting vaginal fluids and cum.
Why foreplay is essential
For most, foreplay (including cunnilingus) is a great way to reach orgasm because of erogenous zones. Around 75% of women don't achieve orgasms during sexual intercourse alone. For women, the vulva and clitoris are the most sensitive erogenous zones and best areas to stimulate during foreplay. Erogenous, and Eros comes from the Greek word, ἔρως , and genous comes from the Greek word born. I’m almost positive that we need a lot more than touching to create love, but foreplay is a fun start.
Erogenous zones are areas of the body that are sensitive to touch and create arousal. For some, a scalp massage can be a huge turn on because there are sensitive parts of the head that could be pleasurable. Other common erogenous zones include the neck (purr), the clavicle, feet, ears, breasts, stomach, and pubic bone. Find more about his erogenous zones here.
I mean, really, any body part can be an erogenous zone depending on the person. Go ahead and research. Touch his (or her) Achilles heel and let me know how it goes. I’d love to hear from you. Comments/questions/concerns/fantasies—I’d love to hear them and I'll be giving more advice along the way. Stay tuned for my next posts and even more advice for GetLusty for Couples!
To fun foreplay and over-the-top orgasms,
Tia
Call her Tia Champagne. She's a recent graduate of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. During her college career, she was part of a volunteer group called the Sexual Health Peers where she bonded with like-minded, sex-positive people from various backgrounds and orientations. She has taught workshops on STDs, birth control, safe sex, and relationships. It was one of the highlights of her college career and allowed her to get involved in Planned Parenthood of Illinois in Action. She was a Campaign Organizer who stood for the reproductive rights of women in Illinois. As a third-wave feminist, she currently works in the makeup industry promoting what she believes in: women should feel and be as beautiful as they want to without scrutiny. She believes in teaching factual and healthy outlooks on sex and relationships as a way to create a sex-positive culture where future generations can thrive. E-mail me directly at tia@getlusty.com.
