We just featured a post about the, "5 Pillars of an amazing sexual relationship." There, I noted my husband and I researched for months on ways to improve our relationship. We had problems--like all couples. That's no secret. This is another post by our Chief Lust Officer, Erica Grigg.
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In late 2011, we moved to Chicago to be a support to my mother after the death of her late husband. In moving back to Chicago, we lost that loving spark in our relationship. Both love and sex became routine, even boring, if at all. Chicago was a source of trauma for me, and a lack of sexual intimacy was a source of trauma for Tim. Like many relationships, we carried our own baggage from past relationships and experiences.
We knew that we wanted a happy marriage, full of emotional and sexual happiness. We didn’t want to continue to fight and live with little intimacy. So we read numerous books and watched videos. From the “Five Love Languages,” with Dr. Gottman to an entire series of couples therapy shows with Dr. Jen Bermann. We wanted to have not only a better marriage, but the best marriage. We scowered the internet for ideas around sex and love for couples. There were some amazing educators, but little existed in terms of a community interested in improving the love and sex lives of couples. Truly committed to end boring sex.
With few places to go to have a better relationship and sexual life, we continued reading, researching and improving our marriage for the better. Luckily, after months of problems and fighting, I went to therapy and recovered almost all of my sexual and emotional interest.
In mid-July 2012, we were talking during our weekly Saturday date at a diner in Greektown. I was itching to do something new, and I wondered out loud what would be next. Tim explained his idea and it couldnt’ve made more sense.
I wanted to share with the world that sexuality after trauma was both possible, normal and expected. Sexuality--even without trauma--was also important! That our problems weren’t just ours. Every married couple has problems. That neither boring sex, nor a mediocre relationship had to be normal. Love is beautiful, why can’t our next business inspire greater love? There sparked the beginning of GetLusty for Couples.
This is post by Erica Grigg, our Founder and Chief Lust Officer. She's a writer, marketer, social entrepreneur and sex geek. She wants to end boring sex. If you don't see Erica riding around downtown, Chicago in her beach cruiser or at a diner with her adoring husband, you see her chatting up the tech community about the importance of sex and love in marriage. Follow Erica on Twitter @ericagrigg or subscribe via Facebook, Google+ and LinkedIn.Want to connect about business partnership with a woman-run business that cares? E-mail me directly at erica@getlusty.com.
