We've talked so much about ladies orgasming, but what about for the male perspective? Are multiple orgasms even possible for gents? We wanted to find out. So, of course, we did our homework with diligent research and are here to present you the results! We'll be addressing more issues around orgasm for men throughout the month, so do stay tuned! Our interested intern Brendan White reports.
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There are plenty of articles out there with regard to female orgasms but what's out there for us guys? Convinced your man is a one-trick pony? WRONG! Men's orgasms are not simply the discharge of DNA. As part of Orgasm October, I'll be talking about the male multiple orgasm!
Oh yes, multiple orgasms are possible!
It is possible for every man to experience multiple male orgasms. Understanding multiple male orgasms can only improve pleasure for both partners in lovemaking, not to mention the health benefits of orgasms. However, unlocking the ability to have multiple orgasms requires determination, practice and a lot of hard work.
Orgasm ≠ ejaculation
At the eye of the male multi-orgasm hurricane is the misconception that men orgasm and ejaculate at the same time. If that sounds like something you believe, quit it. Throw it out of your brain and make room for this: ejaculation can happen several seconds after an orgasm. A man can also orgasm without ejaculation - they don't have to go hand in hand. Some men may have additional orgasms without accompanying ejaculations. The key is to reach an orgasm and to flex the good ole pubococcygeus muscle (or the PC muscle) before ejaculation for long enough to settle down, allowing you to feel the pleasure of an orgasm without softening up.
Use those PC muscles
The PC muscle stretches from the pubic bone to the tail bone like a hammock. You can improve the strength of your PC muscle through Kegel exercises.
Strengthen your muscles with exercise
Named after our friend Dr. Arnold Kegel, these exercises consist of voluntarily flexing your PC muscle (think that pulling feeling you feel if you try to stop urinating) while keeping your buttock and leg muscles relaxed. These exercises also help prevent male urinary incontinence, fight erectile dysfunction, reduce premature ejaculation AND increase the size and intensity of erections!
The great thing about this exercise is that you can do it anywhere you damn well please - stuck in traffic, talking to your mother, putt-putt golfing, pretending to do work in your office - you get the idea. The key, like any kind of muscle building, is to isolate the muscle. If your testicles and penis are rising a little, you're flexing your PC muscle, but try to relax and not squeeze your sphincter.
A weak PC muscle will be a hindrance in your quest to experience the male multiple orgasm because you'll need a strong PC muscle to prevent your penis from ejaculating after orgasming. Building up enough strength in your PC muscle will not happen in one frenzied night of binge pubococcygeus flexing - it will take several weeks to several months before you will be ready. The key is persistence. Think of yourself like a shaolin monk of sorts slowing punching through a wall.
Exercise.
Then practice.
Then exercise.
Continue the process! Practice makes perfect!
The ideal amount of reps will be between 10-20 reps a few times a day. It's important to not rush yourself to avoid injury. After a week or two you should notice that you're completing your kegel training with more and more ease. When you reach this point, start holding the flexed PC muscle several seconds at a time during the reps. Before you know it you'll be exploring the realm of multiple male orgasms!
Keep checking GetLusty for Couples for more helpful and informative articles during Orgasm October!This article is by Business Outreach Intern and occasionally writer. Brendan White. Brendan is a Boston University graduate with a passion for all things historical and also all things sex. A recent Boston transplant to Chicago, Brendan has a musical mind and at one point toured the country. When he's not thinking about conquering feudal japan chances are he's playing loud rock n roll somewhere with other like-minded individuals. When he's not thinking about GetLusty he's spending time with his exceptionally lovely girlfriend. Want to get in touch with him? E-mail Brendan at brendan@getlusty.com.
