Is it hard for you to say "no" to people around you? Do you feel selfish when you take time for yourself? Do you ever spread yourself too thin by saying "yes" to everything? Saying "no" more in your life is a great tool that we need to cultivate.
Not only does saying "no" improve your confidence and self-love, but also your relationships with those around you. We have already written about how to love yourself more and ways to practice that self-love. But how can we augment our self-love and become more confident? One word: No.
Here are some reasons why saying "no" can ultimately improve your relationship. Our Lora Swarts reports.
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#1 Reduces resentment
When you try and do too much and spread yourself too thin, resentment can build in your relationship.
You may start to feel resentful toward your partner diminishing the quality of your relationship. Instead of spreading yourself too thin with work or acquaintances, make an effort to schedule alone time.
Make yourself a priority and schedule that manicure or massage rather than going out for happy hour drinks. When you make time for yourself rather than trying to make everyone else happy, your confidence will build. Loving yourself results in being able to love someone else that much more.
#2 Eliminates dependency
When you say "yes" all the time and never put your foot down, your partner may begin to depend on you. When you do everything, whether its picking up your guy's dry-cleaning or walking your friend's dog, people will start to depend on you for everything.
Learn to say "no" more to doing things for others so that they don't lean on you for everything. When you filter out what you can and cannot do for others, you bring more balance into your life and start setting boundaries for yourself. Instead of picking up the dry-cleaning, making dinner and walking your neighbor's dog after a long day at work, skip it! Go to that yoga class or head over to that book club meeting! It's time to start prioritizing yourself and setting those boundaries!
#3 Limits stress
Stress is something that no woman wants in her life. Ironically, even seeing the word stresses me out. Stress can bring about wrinkles, anxiety, sleeplessness and depression.
Why put yourself and your loved ones through all of that? By learning when to say "no" you are preventing yourself from stressing out. It also seems that stress follows you home no matter what. So save yourself and your love life by stopping stress in its tracks! Try and resist from doing more than you can handle and welcome more balance in your life.
Remember, saying "no" never hurt anyone's feelings. On the contrary, it can help your relationship grow!
Lora is the GetLusty Editorial Intern and resident health nut.
When she is not writing, you can find her on her yoga mat, spending too much money on soy lattes or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend in their north side apartment. You can find her on Twitter @honeynutlo or writing over at her personal blog, Honey Nut Lo.
Have any questions about our editorial content? Contact her at Lora@GetLusty.com.
Not only does saying "no" improve your confidence and self-love, but also your relationships with those around you. We have already written about how to love yourself more and ways to practice that self-love. But how can we augment our self-love and become more confident? One word: No.
Here are some reasons why saying "no" can ultimately improve your relationship. Our Lora Swarts reports.
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#1 Reduces resentmentWhen you try and do too much and spread yourself too thin, resentment can build in your relationship.
You may start to feel resentful toward your partner diminishing the quality of your relationship. Instead of spreading yourself too thin with work or acquaintances, make an effort to schedule alone time.
Make yourself a priority and schedule that manicure or massage rather than going out for happy hour drinks. When you make time for yourself rather than trying to make everyone else happy, your confidence will build. Loving yourself results in being able to love someone else that much more.
#2 Eliminates dependencyWhen you say "yes" all the time and never put your foot down, your partner may begin to depend on you. When you do everything, whether its picking up your guy's dry-cleaning or walking your friend's dog, people will start to depend on you for everything.
Learn to say "no" more to doing things for others so that they don't lean on you for everything. When you filter out what you can and cannot do for others, you bring more balance into your life and start setting boundaries for yourself. Instead of picking up the dry-cleaning, making dinner and walking your neighbor's dog after a long day at work, skip it! Go to that yoga class or head over to that book club meeting! It's time to start prioritizing yourself and setting those boundaries!
#3 Limits stress
Why put yourself and your loved ones through all of that? By learning when to say "no" you are preventing yourself from stressing out. It also seems that stress follows you home no matter what. So save yourself and your love life by stopping stress in its tracks! Try and resist from doing more than you can handle and welcome more balance in your life.
Remember, saying "no" never hurt anyone's feelings. On the contrary, it can help your relationship grow!
Lora is the GetLusty Editorial Intern and resident health nut.When she is not writing, you can find her on her yoga mat, spending too much money on soy lattes or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend in their north side apartment. You can find her on Twitter @honeynutlo or writing over at her personal blog, Honey Nut Lo.
Have any questions about our editorial content? Contact her at Lora@GetLusty.com.
