Our Chief Lust Officer, Erica Grigg, was interviewing Lee Harrington. Lee told us he'd been thinking about this non-violent communication for a while, but couldn't find the time to write a post about it. Because, he said, NVC can really help communication in relationships. We said--you know what--that sounds fabulous! So here's the second in a two part series on using non-violent communication to improve your relationship. Thanks, Lee for the wonderful idea.
We have turned this into a two part series. Part one discussed the fundamentals of non-violent communication. This is part two: the pros of using non-violent communication in a relationship. Our Crimson Love reports.
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When it comes to a big fight or argument with the significant other, we have all been there. The not talking, the shutting down, yelling, door slamming, pointing fingers and the "I know I'm right," mentality.
It hardly settles in a resolution because no one wants to be wrong, everyone wants to be right and plays the victim. It's time to stop and try non-violent communication; NVC.
Why? Read on.
#1 Keep hostility to a minimum
In a fight the levels of hostility can escalate very quickly. Using NVC can keep the levels low and keep you two from escalating the fight before reaching a resolution.
#2 Helps you keep perspective
It's easy to loose perspective when you get angry at your lover. You just want to tell them off and loose your cool. However, using NVC can help you keep perspective and keep in mind what the goal of the conversation is. What you're arguing about is important. But what's most important is to be heard and hear your partner.
#3 Increases the likelihood of a resolution
Conflict is essential to keeping relationships healthy. It's natural that you and your partner don't agree. Can't resolve your fights or your problems? That could be bad. Because NVC helps you keep perspective, the likelihood that you and your lover can come to a resolution increases.
#4 Helps prevent shutdownJust being outright angry and nagging at your lover can make them just shut down and be unresponsive. This can be very negative and move you father from each other. Using NVC can help you keep calm and keep you both on the path to resolution.
#5 Makes for a more constructive setting when fighting or arguing
Instead of tearing each other down and getting nowhere because you have entered the couple version of a pissing contest, NVC can keep you focused and calm, and constructive.
Try non-violent communication and see how much it can improve your relationship and take the toxicity out of your fights.
With love from, GetLusty
This is a post from Crimson Love.Crimson is our resident BDSM fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's, she is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!
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