Intimacy, it's crucial to a successful relationship. Here it is! The final part in our series on intimacy. To briefly recap, part one discussed the things that can kill your intimacy. Part two discussed the difference between sex and intimacy. Here in part three, we are going to give a few ways to infuse the intimacy back into your love and sex life.
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Getting into a rut and getting distracted is easy but getting out of one is harder. Don't fear though! GetLusty is here to provide some ways to get your intimacy back.
1. Schedule
Scheduling may sound really unsexy, but when you have an extremely busy life it is one of the best things you can do your relationship. Scheduling allows you time to plan out your activities like: taking a couples bubble bath together and giving each other massages.
2. Leave distractions out of the bedroom
We know that this will be terribly difficult for some but, you have to try. Letting work bleed into your private life only provides distractions. Leave the television out of your bedroom too! A study by an Italian sexologist has found that couples who have a TV set in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don’t. If that's not incentive for you, I don't know what is!
3. Go to places you have not gone before or don't go often
When I say this I don't mean literally. I mean go to places emotionally. That emotional connection is really important. Cuddle more, fantasize together, get goofy, get angry, get sad. Do it all and do it together. That emotional journey will allow you to learn together and bond. You will become more aware of your partner's emotional needs. The awareness you gain will make you want to fulfill your partners emotional needs in and out of bed.
4. Be present
I cannot stress this enough! If you are not there in the moment with your lover and you're just going through the motions you have become a sexual zombie! Be present and enjoy the time you spend together.
Sex without intimacy can be nice. But making a habit of having sex without intimacy can put you and your lover in a rut. Prevent the rut by making time, scheduling, leaving out distractions and getting emotionally adventurous together.
With love from, Get Lusty!
This is a guest post by our very own Crimson Love.Crimson is our resident BDSM fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's, she is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!
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