Sex and intimacy aren't the same thing. Here at GetLusty, we like to encourage great sex and intimacy. We also like to encourage personal education when it comes to matters of the heart and body. In the first article in our series about intimacy, we discussed a few examples of things that can kill your intimacy and put you in a sexual rut. After reading part one, you might be confused in the references to sex and intimacy, as most use them interchangeably. Here are the definitions and differences between sex and intimacy. So here's part two in a 3 part series. GetLusty writer Crimson Love reports.
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Sex
Sex and intimacy are not the same thing. While sex is an intimate act, that doesn't mean it's full of meaning and intimacy.
According to Dictionary.com sex is, "The act carried out for procreation or for pleasure in which, typically, the insertion of the male's erect penis into the female's vagina is followed by rhythmic thrusting usually culminating in orgasm". This definition says nothing about intimacy. In fact the definition of sex seems quite clinical doesn't it? You can have sex without intimacy, if you just go through the motions and are not mindfully present. You become a sexual zombie.
Intimacy
Again from dictionary.com, intimacy is, "A close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. Or, an act or expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, or the like: to allow the intimacy of using first names". Nothing in this definition talks about sex or making love.
To simply put it in relation to this series, sex is the act and intimacy is the love, thought, effort, time and romance you put into it.
Now that you know what affects intimacy negatively and the difference between sex and intimacy, be on the look out for Part Three: ways to infuse the intimacy back into your love life!
With love from, Get Lusty!
Crimson is our resident BDSM fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's, she is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!
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