Here at GetLusty, we celebrate #SexToyTuesday with a bang. For anal adventurers, this week's kink: anal beads! We've covered anilingus, prostate milking, and anal fingering. Why not add some more toys into the lovely fray? Step right up for your crash course from GetLusty's Ellen Duke in the art of the anal bead for this week's installment of #SexToyTuesday!
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With this in mind, go on and explore your anal bead options. GetLusty's beloved sex toy associate, Pinkcherry, sell anal beads that are designed to be very user friendly. I would suggest starting with sets that graduate in size (the beads start small and get larger farther up the strand). Sounds like an obvious start, but this is one of the coolest aspects of anal beads. They are beginner, intermediate, and advanced all in one. With dildos, plugs, or any other insertion toys, to graduate to a larger size means to actually buy one with more girth.
Your perfect set of anal beads should help you work up to your most comfortable size while enjoying the previous sizes as you work your way up the strand. I recommend California Exotic's X-10 Anal Beads. These beads start small, but still have plenty of larger beads to work up to, allowing longer and most intense use out of one strand.
#2 Remember the lubricant
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#1 Choose your material wisely
Most anal beads nowadays come in cleaning friendly materials, like plastic or metal, silicone, and latex. Of course, you can graduate to metal or even lovely glass. But newbies I advise the ease of bendy beads. Readers, a note of caution: do NOT use any toy with porous material connecting the beads, like string, yarn, what have you. Not only could it easily get twisted or break, but it will be damn near impossible for it to be considerably clean no matter how much scrubbing or soaking. Because we are dealing with fecal matter and other potential bacteria, always, always sanitize before AND after, especially if you and your partner intend on sharing a toy.
With this in mind, go on and explore your anal bead options. GetLusty's beloved sex toy associate, Pinkcherry, sell anal beads that are designed to be very user friendly. I would suggest starting with sets that graduate in size (the beads start small and get larger farther up the strand). Sounds like an obvious start, but this is one of the coolest aspects of anal beads. They are beginner, intermediate, and advanced all in one. With dildos, plugs, or any other insertion toys, to graduate to a larger size means to actually buy one with more girth.
Your perfect set of anal beads should help you work up to your most comfortable size while enjoying the previous sizes as you work your way up the strand. I recommend California Exotic's X-10 Anal Beads. These beads start small, but still have plenty of larger beads to work up to, allowing longer and most intense use out of one strand.
#2 Remember the lubricant
Ok, so you have your first anal beads, now what? Well, put them up your pretty bum of course! But first things first, as with any anal practice: a healthy dose of lube. Keeping your favorite lube within hand's reach would be ideal, just to make sure you can add more if you need. You can also slip the beads inside a condom for some extra slide factor and it couldn't hurt with the cleanliness either. Maybe not for first timers, but a warming lube could be especially nice with beads. Take a slow and steady approach to insertion, not only to keep you comfortable, but to increase the sensation.
#3 Be aware
#3 Be aware
Now that you've primed your beads for insertion, take role. Count the number of beads present. Though you don't necessarily have to form a relationship with each and every bead, knowing when one's missing after you pull out the crew can make quite a difference. And fear not, anal bead beginners, beads rarely, get “lost” in your butt. The very worst case scenario would be a doctor's removal of the bead. Most likely if lost: A.) you/your partner were being a bit rough with your beads B.) a healthy bowel movement will reveal the missing piece. Again, don't let this scare you off of anal bead play. This is a very safe and enjoyable practice, just be aware and fairly in tune with your toys.
After that public safety announcement, let's get down to the dirty. Specifically, how to make your anal bead experience an awesome one.
Here are 3 things I consider crucial to a grand anal experience.
Here are 3 things I consider crucial to a grand anal experience.
#1 Slow it down
When it comes to insertion remember Aesop's Tortoise and the Hare fable. Like I said earlier, taking your time creates a delicious appreciation for each bead's movement. The beads, though technically on a strand, are made of a stiffer material, so you won't have to nudge each bead with your finger into place. Just simply push with the base of the string slowly into the anus.
The great thing about beads is that mounting tension between each. So you have the first hump and your anal muscles relax, then here comes the second, slightly larger bead to fit through. Pretty soon, once your body is comfortable with the fuller feeling of however many beads you want, your bum will be wondering what comes next.
The great thing about beads is that mounting tension between each. So you have the first hump and your anal muscles relax, then here comes the second, slightly larger bead to fit through. Pretty soon, once your body is comfortable with the fuller feeling of however many beads you want, your bum will be wondering what comes next.
#2 Wiggle room
Since anal beads are in no way, shape, or form gender specific, anyone with a willing butt can be on the receiving end. So, with that in mind, consider each anal anatomy. With the guy, you have the most impressionable prostate, most likely engorged and ready for some affection from the promise of sexy times. Since it's only about an inch inside the interior anal wall, most size beads will, with some minor exploration, find a way to rub up against that special spot.
Though chicks don't have a prostate to manipulate, focus more on clitoral stimulation whilst inserting. Though anal beads can work quite well solo, I highly recommend pairing the toy with penile/vaginal/clitoral stimulation. The two fullness of the anal beads with oral sex is a winning duo. And even better? Make sure the beads are securely (and comfortably) inside, and go for a home run. The beads rubbing inside during intercourse will make this next and final element all the better.
Though chicks don't have a prostate to manipulate, focus more on clitoral stimulation whilst inserting. Though anal beads can work quite well solo, I highly recommend pairing the toy with penile/vaginal/clitoral stimulation. The two fullness of the anal beads with oral sex is a winning duo. And even better? Make sure the beads are securely (and comfortably) inside, and go for a home run. The beads rubbing inside during intercourse will make this next and final element all the better.
This final bit of advice (and for many bead regulars, the absolute best part) could sound a bit tricky, but truly, readers, it's all about the timing. If you're any bit in tune to your lover's big O moment, then you're 95% there. The rest? Just a simple tug at the apex of orgasm, and your partner will know exactly why you put those beads in.
The pressure of each bead quickly exiting your anus mixed with the rolling pleasure spasms of climax are some of the most intense feelings one can feel during sex. So much is happening down south that the body pumps full of those lovely hormones (especially the wonderful oxytocin, the so-called 'cuddle hormone' that creates the feeling of total trust and ease). This is where an oral sex approach could work best, as the partner doing the pulling would have easiest access to the beads during the crucial moment.
Sex positions that work best
There are several positions that allow for some bead play during intercourse. If your guy's beaded, try reverse cowgirl. Facing his legs will make an easier time of reaching his bum, plus the gal can control the rhythm and gauge when he's gonna blow. If the lady's packing, doggie style sounds obvious, but consider missionary with her legs over his shoulders. The balance of her legs pressing against his chest could make it easier to get a hand down low to access the beads.
The pressure of each bead quickly exiting your anus mixed with the rolling pleasure spasms of climax are some of the most intense feelings one can feel during sex. So much is happening down south that the body pumps full of those lovely hormones (especially the wonderful oxytocin, the so-called 'cuddle hormone' that creates the feeling of total trust and ease). This is where an oral sex approach could work best, as the partner doing the pulling would have easiest access to the beads during the crucial moment.
Sex positions that work best
There are several positions that allow for some bead play during intercourse. If your guy's beaded, try reverse cowgirl. Facing his legs will make an easier time of reaching his bum, plus the gal can control the rhythm and gauge when he's gonna blow. If the lady's packing, doggie style sounds obvious, but consider missionary with her legs over his shoulders. The balance of her legs pressing against his chest could make it easier to get a hand down low to access the beads.
Now that I have imparted my wisdom on the power of anal beads, go forth, lovers, and try, try, try. Sex was meant to be exploratory, so get down, get dirty, and get ready for some anal fun.
Though Ellen Dukes is not an ethical slut (a damn respectable title, she'll have you know), her curiosity, openness, and the indefatigable search engine Google has lead her to a 21st century sex education. A Chicagoan, you may see Ellen enjoying the delights of her deeply loving relationship with her boyfriend. She's a wannabe sexpert with years of porn viewing, listening to sex stories, and textbook browsing just waiting to put this knowledge to wonderful use.
Have a naughty story? She's heard naughtier, but tell her all the same at ellen@getlusty.com.
Though Ellen Dukes is not an ethical slut (a damn respectable title, she'll have you know), her curiosity, openness, and the indefatigable search engine Google has lead her to a 21st century sex education. A Chicagoan, you may see Ellen enjoying the delights of her deeply loving relationship with her boyfriend. She's a wannabe sexpert with years of porn viewing, listening to sex stories, and textbook browsing just waiting to put this knowledge to wonderful use.Have a naughty story? She's heard naughtier, but tell her all the same at ellen@getlusty.com.
